I never dreamt that I would be a stay-at-home mom. I’ve always been the type that wants to work. Little did I know, being a stay-at-home parent is a lot of work. This was quite contradictory to all of the common misconceptions of stay-at-home parents that I heard. I made a list of these to end the myths!
1. We don’t do anything all day.
“What do you do all day?” is the most [common] offensive question you may hear a lot as a stay-at-home parent. Our job is all hands on deck. While it may not always be crazy or busy, we still have a lot going on most of the time.
2. We are lazy
To snowball off the first point, just because we are stay-at-home parents, does not mean we don’t have drive. It doesn’t mean that we are sitting around on our a$$ all day or shopping all day with our nannies and maids doing everything for us. This isn’t the Real Housewives (Ps. that show is exactly that, a SHOW). We don’t “live off the government”. But, if you still think we’re lazy, well then our “laziness” is saving us money.
3. Our significant others make a lot of money.
Most think that it’s a luxury for parents to stay at home, when in fact it can be out of necessity. Paying for childcare is expensive, especially if you have more than one child. The key is thinking about the cost of childcare versus the amount the stay-at-home parent makes working. If the parent makes $15/hour and childcare is $15/hour, then the parent is working to have someone else watch their child. While some people like to be employed to get out of the house or work for benefits, that doesn’t always make sense in other households.
4. We don’t care about a career.
We live in a career-oriented world. Just because we left our career to be a full time parent, doesn’t mean we don’t care about having a career. Sometimes stay-at-home parents go back to work once their kids are off to school. Our careers may be temporarily paused, we may plan to go back to work one day or maybe we like being a parent more than the career we had before.
5. We don’t need breaks.
While staying at home with your kids can be fun, it’s also exhausting. I love my kids and spending time with them more than anything, but I also need “me” time. After taking care of other humans all day, we need to get a break, too. It’s a long day trying to take care of the house, bills, and making sure the kiddos survive!
6. We can’t/don’t bring in a source of income.
There are a lot of stay-at-home parents that look for any and every way to make money from home. Whether it’s utilizing cash back mobile apps, teaching children in other countries English via video chat, advertising or blogging, they’re doing it. And, if it’s only $5 they’re bringing in a week, that is a source of income, and it’s $5 more than they had before!
7. Stay at home parents are always female.
SAHM. “Stay-at-home-mom”. We literally have our own acronym. But, stay-at-home dads are a thing. While it may not be as common or considered as “socially acceptable”, they do exist, and they can do just as great of a job as a female. They deserve credit, too! The photo may quote 2014, but just think about how much more they’re worth now that cost-of-living has gone up!
What common misconceptions have you heard as a stay-at-home parent?